Week One: Love Your Hubby

"One of the most common complaints men make in my office is: “Dr. Chapman, in my work I am respected. People come to me for advice. But at home, all I get is criticism.” What she considers suggestions, he reads as criticism. Her efforts to stimulate growth have backfired. Give him praise. The fastest way to influence a husband is to give him praise. Praise him for effort, not perfection. You may be asking, But if I praise him for mediocrity, will it not stifle growth? The answer is a resounding “No”. Your praise urges him on to greater accomplishments. My challenge is to look for things your husband is doing right and praise him. Praise him in private, praise him in front of the children, praise him in front of your parents and his parents, praise him in front of his peers. Then stand back and watch him go for the gold." The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

 

Some Praise Prompts

1. I love you
2. I'm proud of you for…
3. Good job…
4. I appreciate you because/for…
5. You look handsome….
6. You make me happy because…
7. I enjoy spending time with you….
8. I love it when you…
9. Thank you for…
10. You make me laugh when…
11. I love that idea.
12. Thank you for making dinner…
13. Thank you for washing the car…
14. Thank you for being such a good provider…
15. Thank you for loading the dishwasher…
16. Thank you for picking up your dirty clothes…
17. Thank you for picking up my prescription.
18. Thank you for taking care of me when I had the flu/wasn't feeling well.
19. Thank you for being my soulmate.
20. Thank you for spending your life with me.
21. Thank you for loving me so completely.
22. I appreciate it when you…
23. I'm happy that you kissed me goodnight
24. I'm happy that you kissed me good morning.
25. I'm happy that you called me today.
26. I'm happy that you took time out to text me today.
27. It pleases me when you take me on a date.
28. Our date was great.
29. I'm so proud of your hard work.
30. I'm so proud of your raise.
31. I'm so proud of the way you have…
32. I love your smile.
33. I love you in those jeans.
34. Wow! You look great! (Yes, men need to feel desirable too).
35. Good job on your diet.
36. I knew you would do the right thing in this situation…
37. Great job keeping up with your workout routine.
38. I'm so happy to see you watching what you eat.
39. I appreciate that you consider my feelings when choosing a movie.
40. It makes me feel special when you open the car door for me. Thank you.
41. It's romantic that you remember what I like in my coffee, or how I take my tea, or what I order at the coffee shop and go ahead and order it for me.
42. It makes me feel safe and loved when you protect me.
43. I love it that you have a picture of me on your desk.
44. I love it that you have pictures of me/us on your phone.
45. You are a great dad.
46. You are a great husband.
47. You are so smart.
48. You are good at….
49. Will you teach me to….
50. I'm so proud to call you my husband.
51. I like the way you handled …
52. You are dependable.
53. I love our time together/being with you.
54. I believe in you.
55. You can do it!
56. You're so good at….
57. That's really interesting!
58. Darling, you look fabulous!
59. Couldn't have done it better myself!
60. Thank you for listening.